Three tips for building Confidence


What is Confidence


Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities — not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic, secure way. 

Confidence comes from the Latin word 'fidere', which means "to trust"; therefore, having self-confidence means to trust in one's self. Today we are going to share three tips to help you build self-confidence.


1) Log your Progress


One of the most informative ways of building your confidence is to keep a journal or victory log of your accomplishments. Taking the time to monitor and record your progress is fundamental as this becomes your evidence base! We often don’t remember the good things that we have previously done, but we have a tendency to remember and regularly bring to mind the errors, mistakes and failures of our past. In those moments when we feel low or lack confidence, being able to remind ourselves of our worth and value by the evidence of our past achievements is vital. Being capable of monitoring and acknowledging progress is essential for building Confidence.

“Experience tells you want to do; confidence allows you to do it.”Stan Smith


2) Be Values-Focused


Too often, we can become people-focused instead of being values-focused. The problem with this is that we can’t please everyone all the time! What’s worse, in trying to please everyone, we end up forsaking our own needs, and more importantly, divorcing our values.

What are values? Values are the things you believe are important in how you live and work. They (should) determine your priorities, and, deep down, they're probably the measures you use to tell if your life is turning out the way you would like.   

It is essential to focus on your personal values because they drive your sense of self-worth and self-respect. When you are aligned with your values and make decisions based on them, they evoke self-confidence. Let the internal GPS of your values guide you in all that you do, for they are the unique strengths from where you draw stability.

“The circulation of confidence is better than the circulation of money.” –  James Madison


3) Connect with the right people


I once read a quote that said, ‘change is difficult, growth is difficult, but nothing is more difficult than staying in a place that you don’t belong’. Nothing could be further from the truth when it comes to the company that you keep. You must surround yourself with positive people and stay away from toxic people. Toxic people are Energy Drainers! By toxic, I mean those individuals who always seem to create drama, then to be very negative and always seem to find a problem to every solution.

 A helpful strategy is not to see people as people but to see and feel them as energy or frequencies. Please take a moment and think of three people you are around the most and visualise them as an energy force or frequency. What would it be? Would they be bright or clouded? Strong or frail? Adding to you or taking away from you? High vibrations or low vibrations? You must connect with the right people who build you, support you and help to raise your confidence levels. Wisdom teaches us to avoid thoughts, people and places that weaken us!

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –  Eleanor Roosevelt


Final Words


Self-confidence is a skill that can be learned. No one was born with the gift of Confidence! It is a process that anyone can learn with time and effort as we grow and nurture it. To improve your self-esteem and confidence, it is crucial that you take care of yourself. When you feel good physically and mentally, it helps you feel more confident.

I hope you found this blog helpful. Leave a comment below and let me know one thing that you will take away.


Kind regards

Ezra AKA Voice of Reason


  • To see people as energy was an AHA! moment for me. Thanks for the post, you always share amazing insight.

    Jacqueline Johnson
  • To see people as energy was an AHA! moment for me. Thanks for the post, you always share amazing insight.

    Jacqueline Johnson

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