Masculine and Feminine Energies (P1)
What is masculine and feminine energy?
Firstly, it is essential to note that masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with gender; we all have both energies within us. When thinking about these energies, we must remove the biological aspect from the equation and view them from a standpoint of characteristics, skills, and behaviours that empower us to sustain healthy relationships, build successful businesses, and live a happy and fulfilled life.
Jackie Chan once said in an interview, "too much of a good thing is not a good thing"! This is undoubtedly the case for our masculine and feminine energies. A balance between the two energies is what makes us whole, healthy and in alignment across all aspects of our life. You often find that men have more masculine energy and less feminine energy, and women tend to have more feminine energy than masculine. In some cases, the roles are reversed. In this blog, I will be focusing on masculine energy.
What are some examples of masculine energy?
Masculine energy can be viewed as the element of your being responsible for taking action and getting things done. It originates in the thinking process, whether analytical or logical thought. To act or take action, we need to decide and be focused in any given situation. This process is made possible by the various masculine energies, including initiation, confidence, assertiveness, goal-driven, resilience, taking decisive action, being disciplined, risk-taking, future-focused, and dominating. I will expand on a couple of these energies:
Focus is an essential aspect of masculine energy because it enables us to pay attention to things. Without it, we are prone to making mistakes, missing things and creating a barrage of problems in our relationships, be it personal or professional. Without having good focus, it is most likely that all aspects of your ability to think will suffer. Having focus is what enables us to concentrate on a task or problem over some time and helps us to be able to pinpoint solutions because we first spotlighted what the problem is. Focus is so imperative because it is the gateway to all thinking. It births essential attributes, including memory, learning, perception, reasoning, problem-solving, and decision making.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Aristotle Onassis
Assertiveness means to be self-confident and self-assured about yourself. It is a fundamental trait or characteristic that enables you to state needs and wants clearly in situations. It is the bridge between being passive (letting things slide and not addressing something that affected you) and aggressive (forcefully getting your point across with no regard for others). Being assertive means using appropriate measures such as 'I statements' and being respectful while addressing the issue. Assertiveness involves being decisive, honest and standing up for their rights. There will be many occasions in life when we are called upon to be assertive to take action or get things done!
“Assertiveness is not what you do, it’s who you are!” – Shakti Gawain
Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. It is also the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity. Our level of Resilience is tested every time a situation arises that pushes us out of our comfort zone. Psychological Resilience is the ability to mentally or emotionally cope with a crisis or return to pre-crisis status quickly. Resilience exists when the person uses "mental processes (reframing things, positive affirmations etc) and behaviours (grounding, meditation, deep breathing etc) in promoting personal assets and protecting self from the potential negative effects of stressors". We all have a different reaction to stress, adversity and crisis based on our resilience levels.
“Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.” – Angela Duckworth
Operating out of your masculine energy is essential but remember that it is only one side of the coin. I will be exploring the other side (feminine energy) in my next blog. It is also important to note that when used in excess or out of balance, the masculine energy can become forced, rigid, overly dominating, aggressive, controlling, critical, unstable, unsupportive and anxious. So remember, the key to success when expressing masculine energy is BALANCE!!!
I hope you found this blog helpful. Leave a comment below and let me know one thing you will take away.
Ezra AKA Voice of Reason